tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13886780.post2874327200917497585..comments2008-05-17T21:42:27.034-04:00Estellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12133147419963948340noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13886780.post-83687147541018957332008-05-17T21:42:00.000-04:002008-05-17T21:42:00.000-04:00My wife is having our first child in less than 2 weeks..I get NO time off. NONE. .... we have to schedule our days off at least a week in advance. I cant predict when he will be born so I will probably leave my job..take a month off and find a new job...which makes me sad because I like my job.A, B, C, and Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03965597252057161506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13886780.post-63627183418504729032008-05-16T22:37:00.000-04:002008-05-16T22:37:00.000-04:00what a cunt!supervickyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08419611624644467418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13886780.post-23884615361686481212008-05-16T11:39:00.000-04:002008-05-16T11:39:00.000-04:00Oh! This post just ran all over me! I'm so sorry you're dealing with the ignorant. PLEASE do not walk away. There are tactics set up in businesses specifically designed to ware people down and hopefully force them to give up. Please do not give up. You have rights, not only as a human, a parent, etc., but most importantly in this case as an employee. If this hr person has a bug up her butt about your choices and your family, in no way does she have the right nor should she have the ability to affect what is legally due to you.rainbowmomwww.rainbowmom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13886780.post-9792359837751087962008-05-15T20:31:00.000-04:002008-05-15T20:31:00.000-04:00I don't have any idea if the issue specifically of same-sex parents has been tested in the courts OR in front of the Department of Labor (which regulates FMLA), but as someone pointed out to me recently the DOL interpretations of FMLA state that FMLA applies to people who stand "in loco parentis" and that no legal relationship is actually required! Thus for both this child and Charlie, you could argue you are entitled to FMLA. <BR/><BR/>Specifically the provision defines a son or daughter as: "a biological, adopted, or foster child, a<BR/>stepchild, a legal ward, <B> or a child of a person standing in loco <BR/>parentis </B>, who is either under age 18....'' Then it says that "Persons who are ``in loco parentis'' include those with day-to-day responsibilities to care for and financially support a child ... <B> A biological or legal relationship is not <BR/>necessary </B>." You can see more here: http://www.dol.gov/dol/allcfr/ESA/Title_29/Part_825/29CFR825.113.htm<BR/><BR/>That said, I'm not sure FMLA applies to you here, but you could point out that you are in loco parentis to this child, and that you shoudl qualify for FMLA (worth a shot, right?)...<BR/><BR/>Just a thought- I don't know if it would work, but the language seems pretty clear.Moms and Two Boyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12791118995536354509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13886780.post-53040121739451360412008-05-15T16:53:00.000-04:002008-05-15T16:53:00.000-04:00take it all the way and save all email / paper .. what she did was a BIG NO NO.. and u have grounds to sue for discrimation ... omg this made my blood boil...<BR/>fuck her ..<BR/>hang tight girl... hugs you<BR/>tonya cinnamonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13886780.post-6473913714669157582008-05-15T16:47:00.000-04:002008-05-15T16:47:00.000-04:00wow - what an ass.<BR/><BR/><BR/>I'm SO SO sorry.<BR/><BR/>Florida SUCKS in terms of our families.<BR/><BR/>And I'm sure you somewhat have a lawsuit in that.<BR/><BR/>WOAH.<BR/><BR/>Charlie IS your son, and that HR person can bite it.Shellihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03159550437519461534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13886780.post-22214651762549143312008-05-15T14:22:00.000-04:002008-05-15T14:22:00.000-04:00Oh goodness that is absolutely atrocious. At this point I would be patient and give the wheels time to do their work. Having a supportive supervisor and manager is a huge step. Give them time to work on your behalf because they are working for you. That HR rep needs a good kick in the butt. I'll be happy to volunteer!Traceyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06865212974224788129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13886780.post-5222937643437467162008-05-15T14:03:00.000-04:002008-05-15T14:03:00.000-04:00Wow, E. I am horrified. I wish I had advice for you but I just want to offer my disgust in the direction of your HR person.Lohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10507793708832982682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13886780.post-46048877838504189322008-05-15T00:09:00.000-04:002008-05-15T00:09:00.000-04:00Sit tight and see what happens to the HR Manager. Although she is a representative of the company, my guess is the company will not support the way she treated you at all. It sounds like you have strong support of your manager and then some. There are people above HR that make the decisions.Miss Krishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09396490824010180141noreply@blogger.com