Comments on Faggots on the Third Floor: The "final decision"

What a lot of crap you have to deal with there. I ...

2008-06-27T10:00:00.000-04:00

What a lot of crap you have to deal with there. I am sorry it is such a struggle, to find leave for your impending child. You should all move to Canada!

Whoo Hoo Franny!

2008-06-22T16:00:00.000-04:00

Whoo Hoo Franny!

As a Dyke Mom HR person, I can't tell you how sorr...

2008-05-31T21:40:00.000-04:00

As a Dyke Mom HR person, I can't tell you how sorry I am that all this is happening. ENDA is SO much more important than the right to marriage, in my opinion, for JUST this reason. If we can have control over our employment and be allowed the same legal employment rights as hets, we can marry, adopt, and do whatever else we need to do without fear of losing our jobs over living our lives as we choose.

I wish I had read the previous posts in time - usually I read your blog at least once a week, but I just quit my job myself and I've been offline, vacationing in your fair state. (Destin - not so much on teh gays, eh?) If I had, I'd have given you similar advice to our lawyer commenter, but with this caveat - you are worth more, much more, than this company is giving you. No matter how great your immediate supervisor is, she could be transferred in a heartbeat, and then you're still stuck at this same crap employer, now with a troublemaker tag. Start looking - not because they suck, though they do suck, but because you are worth more. Even in Florida there are employers who will treat you, and your family, with the dignity and respect you deserve. Really. Start looking, start networking, make a few calls, and get ready to hit it as soon as you get back from your two week PTO extravaganza. Make them sorry they're losing you, and make them do the fancy footwork with their supervisors over their turnover rate.

That's crappy. But as a lawyer I'll tell you that...

2008-05-24T14:06:00.000-04:00

That's crappy. But as a lawyer I'll tell you that practicing law is all about interpretation since many laws have areas of ambiguity. And if there's no real clear case law to clarify it makes it even murkier. It doesn't look like there's much case law in Florida so I see where HR and Legal don't have a clear cut policy.

The other crappy thing is that unless you are willing to kiss the job goodbye it's probably not worth it to make a big stink and fight it. Because employment is "at will" meaning you can be fired for any reason unless it's clearly against the law (discriminatory). And proving discrimination is hard and can take years.

I guess the other super crappy thing is that because you live in Florida you can't adopt Charlie and new baby. You should temporarily relocate to another state and adopt them then move back to Florida.